A Sad Passing


 
russ olin

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What a shocking week this has been. My 87 year old dad, who was in great shape for his age & lived alone since my mom passed 5 1/2 years ago. He called me early morning on 8-20 @ 6:45. And for the last 10 years he has called me @ 7:30 every morning. Soon as the phone rang I knew there was a problem. He was in terrible side pain. We called the ambulance & he went to the ER. Long story short. After a 5 hour stay there & few test. A couple more Dr. visits over the next several days we found out his time had run its course. Years before his Dr. & him agreed to leave advancing PSA# alone. And not even worry about it. This was 10 years ago. The docs say something else will kill you before the slow advancing prostrate cancer will. So they say. I'm writing this to tell people DON'T BELIEVE IT! My dad was in great shape & strong. Till that fateful day. So guys keep up on the check ups & do NOT ignore this. Drs. are not always right. He lasted only 6 days. Which was a blessing. I wont go into details. It was super aggressive in the end. Hopefully this will save someone else on this site. Live long & prosper. My dad did for 87 years.
 
Heart felt condolences Russ.

Good advice. I had my prostate removed 9 years ago due to cancer that was thankfully contained inside.
There have been times I wondered if I shouldn't have done a wait and see, but my urologist recommended removal. I'm glad I took his advice.
 
My condolences. That prostate stuff is kinda weird. My uncle was diagnosed with it in his early 80's as I recall. The dr used implants and hormone therapy. He passed at 93. But not from that. He passed from heart and kidney failure. My buddy is in the same boat. Dr said just watch it
 
Very sorry to hear of your dad's passing, Russ. As a Prostate Cancer survivor as well, I've learned that it can be a tricky one to nail down. I was lucky we found mine, and a combination of my age and specific diagnosis meant active treatment was right for me. I've heard the "something else will get you first" line many times, and, I think, statistically, it's likely true. However, as I frequently reminded my medical team, I am not an amalgamation of statistics, I'm a single data point......stats don't matter if you are an outlier.

I'm very sad that this disease took your dad from you when he still seemed to have many more years to share with you and yours. I'll pin my blue ribbon on today just for him. Cherish the fond memories that you have, in time, those will be the things you think of most.

All the best,
Rich
 
So sorry to hear that Russ, your Dad sounds like a fighter and who knows he might of beat this.
I'm overdue to see my doctor with this covid thing, I need to get going.
Tim
 
Russ,

My deepest condolences to you and your family during this very sad time. I lost my Dad about nine years ago and sure know what you are going through now. My thoughts are with you. Hang in there my friend.
 
Russ,
Barb and I are so sorry to hear the loss of your Dad. I remember some of the threads you did about having your dad over for some Q.
Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
 
Russ: so sorry to hear this about your Dad. Praying that you and your family have peace.
 
Russ, my eyes are getting watery reading your post and all of the replies. My condolences to you and your family.

I know that some doctors were down on the PSA test for a while out of fear of false positives, but I think that's been changing in recent years. Gentlemen, ask your doctor about testing, exams, etc. Kind of an awkward subject, but very important.
 
Russ, I am so sorry to hear that. I remember how much losing my Dad hurt. Excellent advice. I take a Prostate med because it's enlarged but no Cancer yet. I see the Urologist, and get a PSA test, annually and it's time well spent. Guys, listen to Russ.
 
Russ, so sorry to hear of the loss of your Dad. I agree with your Good advice. My Dad died from prostate cancer and have a brother who had his removed due to it. I have yearly checks and tests. Not pleasant but necessary in my opinion. Also lost two other brothers to different cancers. Keep spreading the word about it. Thanks and condolences to you and your family.
 
Russ, I’m so sorry to hear of your fathers passing to the larger life.
Please send me his Christian name so I can pray for repose of his soul.
The anniversary of my Fathers passing is fast approaching and I’m always sad when that comes around. It doesn’t get better only different.
My deepest condolences.
 
sorry for your loss , Russ - I've followed your post over the years here, and its obvious you had a close and very special relationship with your dad... it's some tough sledding - doctors do their best, but we are still our best advocates. Peace .....
 
Russ - my sincere condolences to you and your family. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
 
Russ, I am so sorry for your loss. I, like several others who have posted here, have had personal experience with prostate cancer. My dad, who died almost two years ago at 91, had prostate cancer for the last few years of his life, but died from congestive heart failure. I am scheduled for another biopsy in a week. Guys, discuss this with your doctor. Be proactive, don't put it off.
 
Thanks to all the kind words to those who posted. I did want to say that I was blessed to get the 87 years that I had with my dad. I just think that we lost 4-5 years that we could have had. No ones fault, docs or my dad. I've learned a lot in the time of Covid about funerals. We are having no formal services to contain the spread of this plague. I don't want any family members getting sick from Covid. Will not take that chance. The funeral home at this time allows no people inside the chapel. We could have had up to 50 people at the cemetery max. But where do you draw the lines saying this person can come & this one not? Some people were not happy. But we are sticking to our guns. They can come visit the grave site at later times & pay their respect. There will be 4 people at his graveside service. Myself, my wife, my sister & her husband. The lady that set up the service , military gun salute. And I will receive a flag. My dad was cremated & his ashes will rest over my moms casket. I will then get the honor of shoveling the dirt back into the grave.
And when this flipping plague is over , next spring or summer. We will have a huge Celebration of Life in his honor. With BBQ, beer & wine.
Good luck , Stay healthy out there.
Russ
 
<sigh> I really shouldn't be surprised at what gets peoples' noses bent out of shape. :( Some people just don't get it. Just don't take it personally.

I've made the decision to not attend events when I'm not feeling well. Right now, you have to make the assumption that we're all not feeling well.
 
I find myself agreeing with the esteemed Mr. Kalchik, sadly we can only work with the cards we are dealt in this. A very dear chef friend of mine passed early in this situation, a friend for over 30 years, no service not a lot more than the announcement.
A good party next summer will be much more Andy’s style! I’ve told all my friends and family that there will be much good food and drink at my funeral! Good old fashioned Anglican funeral in black vestments but, the party will be all the musicians, food friends, spouses and merry making! There is one song that I will haunt people should they play it but, good music and good food is what I really want for those that survive me.
 
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