What is your opinion?


 
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Joan

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When someone posts here someone/something that they like/love, do you think it is nice/alright for someone to say bad things about what the other person posted?
 
First person: I really love XYZ!

Second person: I also really love XYZ, but once I found out that it causes cancer, kills babies in Sudan, depletes the world's supply of helium, and contributes to global warming, I stopped messing with it.

First person: Wow. I knew about the helium and the cancer, but I didn't know about the babies in Sudan. I'm also going to stop. Thanks for the heads up.
 
Scott Smith said:
First person: I really love XYZ!

Second person: I also really love XYZ, but once I found out that it causes cancer, kills babies in Sudan, depletes the world's supply of helium, and contributes to global warming, I stopped messing with it.

First person: Wow. I knew about the helium and the cancer, but I didn't know about the babies in Sudan. I'm also going to stop. Thanks for the heads up.
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Your right, there may be some occasions where it is needed. But, on this site? I would think, not very often.
 
For example, I love to eat shrimp. I would not like it for someone to say, "how can you eat that stuff. To me they taste disgusting"
 
Joan said:
When someone posts here someone/something that they like/love, do you think it is nice/alright for someone to say bad things about what the other person posted?
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Just my opinion- it’s an Internet forum, and while i sometimes don’t like what I read, I prefer honesty instead of sugar coated cotton candy responses.

I really don’t think much of Jimmy Buffet either…
 
I sure hate to think just because of where we are, that we can't act like nice human beings.
 
Joan said:
I sure hate to think just because of where we are, that we can't act like nice human beings.
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On the reverse side of that coin, when as a society did we become so sensitive?

Seems like it’s unacceptable to express a different point of view.

Saying I don’t like a piece of art or artist is just an opinion. I am not attacking fans of said art or artist.

If someone passes on, yes it’s improper to speak badly of them- that’s the way I was raised.

Apologies to all you Parrotheads.
 
If it’s the JB thing, it was delivered well. He stated he didn’t particularly like but then added some praise, then someone posted a list of three things, which was then replied to by the original only adding his take on the list.

It’s the internet. Leave feelings aside when logging in, it can be a brutal place. I’m ok with it.

And any discussion is open to going to the side. It’s normal conversation only online, folks get bent when you go “off topic”.

As far as passing, if you don’t like them alive, you don’t like them dead either. Conversely, some so so talent is extremely popular specifically because they’re dead.
 
Another reason why I stopped posting here every day.
Too many asinine comments that totally piss me off.
If Chris Allingham wasn’t a friend of mine, this site would be in my rear view mirror way before Bob left us.

And of course, many of you have know F idea what I’m talking about.
Naturally.
 
Jim, I guess you are referring to my post. Please, don't let what I say keep you away. I really don't know how to express better what I meant by my other post. HELP!!!!!
 
This is a tricky subject. As a forum operator, I lean towards helpful, constructive, friendly conversation. We often hear people say these days, "we can disagree without being disagreeable," and I think that should be true on any online forum.

However, it's well documented that online communication is challenging due to lack of non-verbal cues and body language that we see when talking face-to-face. It's also the case that some people are better writers/communicators than others. Layer on top of this the fact that a) some people are more sensitive and get their feelings hurt when others offer criticism or opposing points of view, even if constructive, b) some people are crabby or stressed or had a fight with their spouse or had a bad day at work or aren't feeling well and it shows in their posts, and c) some people are just curmudgeons or Debbie Downers and take negative positions on many posts.

All of this adds up to a complicated dynamic when it comes to forum posts. I would encourage members to think in terms of "helpful, constructive, friendly" posts, to assume the best in other members, to cut other members some slack, and to not take things too seriously or personally. It's just a barbecuing forum!
 
Let's take this factually and by the numbers:-One member posts about the loss of Jimmy Buffett.-others reply with various thoughts, RIP, assorted comments...kind of like what internet forums are all about.-I indeed commented that I didn't like his music but I considered him a brilliant entrepreneur.-A forum member asked:"Jim Lampe said:how in the world could you NOT like his music...?how in the world could you NOT LOVE his music...?he was feel good, love life and have a blast doing it guy.i've seen him at Alpine 3 times over the years and ran into him at his KW bar/restaurant in 2002.The world has truly lost a real treasure."
-To which I answered his question: "
. He didn't have the best voice.
2. His song writing to me was unoriginal and simplistic.
3. He was selling something I already had and didn't need from him nor could I relate to his version of.
I grew up surfing and spending much of my life on or near the beach(NJ, Puerto Rico, San Diego, Mexico, Florida, Portugal, Hatteras) and still do to this day and my perception of such a life differs vastly from the typical "parrot heads".
But he certainly parlayed his "brand" of a certain lifestyle into a money making machine."

There was nothing derogatory or disrespectful in either of my posts. Too bad some took it that way. Is it now offensive to have different tastes in music, art, food?
People have different opinions on many things. The sooner some folks realize that, the sooner their quality of life will improve.
 
Joan said:
For example, I love to eat shrimp. I would not like it for someone to say, "how can you eat that stuff. To me they taste disgusting"
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See, that's the exact opposite for me. When someone that I do not know and don't really care about says something derogatory, it just rolls right past me.





BD
 
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