Should you say anything?


 
Jason Godard said:
You’ve shot me down for this once, Joan. I’m ok with that.
IMHO, it’s all about context, but due to the limits of any on-line forum in conveying expression, if someone‘s comments come across as less than polite, I try to take what I can from it that is constructive and drop the rest. I think almost everyone comes here to enjoy the stories, pictures, recipes, and camaraderie. Part of that is accepting that we all won’t agree 100%, and I still want to hear others take on things even so. I don’t sense that most people wake up in the morning and say to themself ‘I can’t wait to get on the forum and demolish someone‘.
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Good morning Jason, you said I shot you down for this once. I don't remember, but if I did, I am soo sorry, I don't like to shoot anyone down.

I am having a hard time trying to explain what I am talking about, so what say we all just drop the subject and pretend that I never posted this thread. OK? ;)
 
TonyUK said:
Yeah, I bet you'll serve Satan's testicles as well. The cocktail will suffice thank you. ;)
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Maybe, but, beets and asparagus are two things I don’t eat the night before I have labs run for the doctor, that would just be mean!
I’m just surprised a man of the world such as you isn’t a Brussels sprouts fan! I know you like cabbage.
I converted my daughter in law to a fan of them as well as cauliflower. My grandchildren have devoured them since they were old enough to eat real food! I’m about ready to do that SRF brisket…
 
OK, one more thought on the subject. "Back in my day's, (lol), we would only need one thing to say, so, in the future, I will be calling those I am talking about............

PARTY POOPER!!!!!:cool:

(if you don't know what I am talking about, please read my first post here)
 
Joan said:
"My favorite sauce is Head Country hot. Man that stuff is good. I've been hearing great things about the Blues Hog, that should be my next buy.

What is your favorite BBQ sauce?"

OK, this person is asking for everyone's favorite, not their opinion about what the poster said they like. Just because they don't like the Blue Hog does not mean the poster wont either. IMHO, that person should start their own thread about why not to try Blue Hog.;)
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I agree with you in principle, but in reality a statement about what sauces I like invites a conversation about those sauces, and comments will range from positive to negative. My personal sensitivity level (whether I'm easily offended or have a thick skin) and the nature/language of the replies will determine whether I feel positive/supported or criticized/attacked for having expressed my like for those sauces.

If I post, "I have a couple of favorite BBQ sauces. What is your favorite BBQ sauce?" I will certainly be asked, "Tell us what are your favorite BBQ sauces!" because people want to know if they're missing out on something special!

To avoid such discussion, just post "What is your favorite BBQ sauce?"

Or end every post with, "Don't hurt my feelings! Please post only positive replies to my post." ;)
 
Haha...this reminds me of a Reddit post I just saw in the last few days...

A guy cooks his girlfriend dinner, who eats it, compliments her boyfriend etc. A little later, the boyfriends happens to see a txt message reply come in from the girlfriends mom.....says "I'm sure he tried his best dear....just eat it."
 
I'd prefer people to be honest about my food both in comments, pictures, or in person. I'm not very sensitive about it and would like to give and take constructive criticism if everyone wasn't so sensitive.
 
OK Chris, if someone does ask what is your FAVORITE BBQ SAUCE, and someone says, my favorite bbq sauce is "Bob Smith's BBQ Sauce" (made up name). Do you think someone should come along and post "yuck, I hate that sauce".?
 
Joan said:
OK Chris, if someone does ask what is your FAVORITE BBQ SAUCE, and someone says, my favorite bbq sauce is "Bob Smith's BBQ Sauce" (made up name). Do you think someone should come along and post "yuck, I hate that sauce".?
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I would prefer a constructive reply, e.g. "I tried Bob Smith's BBQ Sauce and didn't like it. Too sweet for me, and I'm not a big fan of tomato-based sauces, I prefer vinegar-based sauces. But to each his own, there's a BBQ sauce there for everybody!" That kind of reply might actually help someone who is considering buying Bob Smith's BBQ Sauce and has similar tastes to the replying poster.

Not everyone is so thoughtful with their replies, so "yuck, I hate that sauce" can be expected but it doesn't help anyone, it doesn't tell us why they don't like it, it just expresses a negative vote against the sauce. If these kinds of replies bother you, I would suggest you ignore them and pay attention to the more constructive, substantive replies.
 
I just wish people would meet strangers on the Internet as if they were meeting them face-to-face. If someone's right in front of you and says, "Wow! I really love my steak extra well-done!" would you accuse them of having a Naugahyde palate and be ruder than heck or would you just say, "Oh, really? I've always liked mine X. Do you like any sauces with that?" or some other innocuous follow-up? (Or, another good follow-up, "Do you like/do you barbecue?") I think people often feel more entitled to be rude because people on the other end of the screen are, somehow, not real. Good manners work both in the real world and in the virtual one.

And I adore beets, especially pickled beets and can't stand "wet" scrambled eggs, so there you go and to use a phrase I've heard elsewhere, "Don't yuck someone else's yum."
 
I think I’m out on this one.
Captain cranky pants will always have “their” voice heard. I’m not going down this road any farther.
 
Chris, this is a “Forum”, the concept is simple, people voice opinions, opinions vary. When someone decides that one’s opinion may not be constructive, it might be best for that someone to excuse themself from that conversation. Hence, I’m out on this one. I find the subject not to my interest. Manners is something best thought by parents. Not the internet.
That’s just my opinion.
 
" Manners is something best thought by parents."

Timothy, you just hit on what I have been thinking lately. I have been wondering if what I have been saying on this site is just the "mother" in me coming out. :unsure:
 
Thank you guys, you all finally get me. And I love the nice sayings some of you posted. I will save them. Now I will sleep better tonight. Nighty nite:love:
 
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