I know how you feel. Had some hammy ribs a couple times. For me, I got my mojo back when I simplified. I lessened the time, money, and worry... And the rewards increased. Short simple prep, quicker cooks (foil has helped), and just having fun with friends and family. It sucks to get really excited about cooking something, then have a dissapointing outcome. In my low point, I adopted this philosophy... And stick with it:
There is no such thing as perfect BBQ, but there can be a perfect state of mind to fully enjoy cooking and eating BBQ.
There is no such thing as perfect BBQ, but there can be a perfect state of mind to fully enjoy cooking and eating BBQ.