As someone who’s lived in a city apartment their whole life, I get it- there’s nothing worse than an inconsiderate neighbor. (Or, in this case, neighbour.) But on the other hand there has to be a little give and take on both sides, and this woman just sounds like the worst when it comes to that.
In any case, I operate my smoker, gas grill, and kettle in pretty close quarters- and if my neighbor is on his front porch and I’m lighting the grill in the front I make sure to ask him if I’m smoking him out.
I didn’t have any outdoor space in my last condo, but I’ve been operating three grills here, sometimes with overnight smokes, and haven’t had a single complaint in 3 years.